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Walking the Talk....



I'm very curious to know how many of us truly mean what we say and say what we mean. And, act on both of them in our everyday lives. Is there often a gap in between? If so, how wide or narrow is it? No, we're not talking about lies here. This is about how dramatically things could change from preaching to practice. Intentional or not. Let's plunge deeper into this interesting aspect of our society that many of us take for granted.

Here are some simple, everyday things that we wag our tongue about, but our brain kind of consciously overlooks when follow-up knocks on the door.

Be honest, Truth hurts, but in the end is better - No way! We "white lie" through our way most of our lives. And no, I would rather listen to lies than truth, especially if someone is commenting on my new outfit, thank you. End maybe better, but beginning sounds the best for now.

Don't talk behind someone's back - We know it's bad, especially hate it when we are the target object of the gossip. But, let's admit it. All of us do it, be around the watercooler in the office, at home, at a party, in a village, across the globe. The greatest leveller amongst us has to be this "verbal exchange of human interest".

Never judge anyone by their looks - Who are we kidding now? The first thing that strikes is a person's appearance, followed by money, social position etc. You can be a great person with a heart of gold, but it's your dress, way you carry yourself etc that gives the first impression. And sadly, for some people, race and color take priority too.

Money doesn't matter in life - Yeah right, only after you got it. Till then, in this day and age, it does matter. Unless, you're planning to practice sainthood in the Himalayas. Oh, wait a minute - you need cash to get there. Shoot, that option is out too.

On a serious note, let's cut ourselves some slack here. Maybe, most of the idealistic speech fails when confornted with basic survival issues of everyday. We like to hear them, and talk because we love to say them. But, walking them IS a different matter altogether.

And, if you think you're already jogging and don't need this lecture, you should be the happiest person on earth. That is if this quote is valid -

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony".- Mahatma Gandhi

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