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Human Needs and Relationships....Part 1





Let's admit it. All of us as adult humans have needs, wants and desires. At first, they have and will be at a basic sustenance level of food, shelter and clothing, and once that's done, it moves to many different elevations above. Also, it always starts with material things like money, car, house, job etc., then kids (and the heavy price tag that comes with them) etc. Think of it as the "taking" phase. At some point of life, when many hairs have been "grayed-and-dyed" after, we hopefully evolve to higher-order thinking like social work, helping/caring for others or spiritual quest etc. - basically, chucking the hugely inflated and egoistic "me and only me" out and replacing it with a big picture view of "what i can do for others", "how i can be useful to Mother Earth"  line of thought process. This would be the "giving" or "pay-back" phase. Sorry, life doesn't offer any free lunch, anytime, anywhere.

Well, you might be shocked to know if I came up with the above idea. I admit it's kinda very tempting to me too because it sounds so profoundly knowledgeable and immensely deep. But, unfortunately, every student of Marketing/Psychology would be familiar with this old, but fundamental Maslow's "Hierarchy of Needs", so can't get away with this one. For those of you who decided to study atoms, light waves and 'gooey' body parts in school instead, the foll. pyramid explains it all-




This much is quite obvious and it's an open secret that Maslow's is the most-abused, beaten-to-death theories out there. So, what is new here? The psycho-social angle. Not much has been talked about it, as far as I know.

There is definitely a developmental curve pattern, directly related to age as you go up the ladder. With me so far?

Now, let's dive into relationships. Every single human being has a one-to-many relationship with others around him/her - be it family, friends, co-workers, neighbors and the rest of the general public. From cradle to grave, we have to be connected to others, whether we wish to be or not. You can love it or hate it, but gotta put up with it. Ok, that line is all mine - not great but it's the best one i could come up with right now :-) And, not all of us can have perfect relationships with everyone, it's plainly impossible. But, we genuinely try to have as many good ones and less of bad ones, at least to keep our sanity in tact. Right?

Now, finally getting to the connection. And, for that you have to wait for Part 2.

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