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You and your compass....


Let's talk about what each and every one of us have within ourselves.

That deep, down voice that tells us strongly what to do, not to do, what we ought to do but choose not to and regret later on with a "I-told-me-so", things that we wish to do but dare not try in our lifetime....you get the drift.

Yes, it is that all-pervading, metaphorical inner compass, or the SatNavs of our lives that I'm getting into.

Young adults think they have an independent mind, and do and act that way. In reality, though, in most of the cases, it's not even of their own choice, but out of peer pressure.

Which interestingly, brings a point- whose collective, mob voice is it then? If everyone is busy copying someone else doing the same, then who the heck started the fire?

No clue, but let's assume for sanity's sake that some life form starts a trend which gets viral, bacterial, whatever. And, suddenly there's a strong urge that compels every youngster to do it right now, or their life be doomed. Of course, more their parents don't like it, the merrier it gets. They start protesting to claim their individual rights for an idea that's not their own, but actually belongs to a group.

Confusing much? Very. But, amusing as that is, am not saying that it's anything wrong, because all this is an important part of growing up.  Anyway, this is the time when the "miniature-adults" are starting to collect life experiences to start polishing their navigation systems.

Seems fascinating though, that the time when we reach our prime adulthood, is the stage when most of us have developed a strong sense of morals, ethics and a scope of our life, which is unique to us.

Even though we still follow the crowd to some extent, given the social animals that we are, we have also managed to shape up on our own. How did we get here? Usually, this is a culmination of our upbringing- the place we have lived, our genes, family etc etc. But, most importantly our good, bad and ugly life experiences so far plays a crucial role here.

And, by mid-life and beyond is when by experimenting more, and by learning vis-a-vis the success or failure of the outcomes from our prime adulthood, whoppee....woohoo....we are on the way to finding the core of ourselves.

We are all really grown-up now, and supposed to be mature adults. By the way, you can cancel the party plans, because this is not an end-all business. Ideally, we are supposed to continue grooming and keep gaining enough wisdom to create those spectacular auras around us that can shine through the Milky way. At least that's the high bar we have to keep up.

You can of course, decide to chuck these concepts through the window, say hell-no to these high pressured notions and resume the party. It's all a choice :-)

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