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Anomalies of Aging...

I am going to make some sweeping generalizations here, so bear with me. Or don't. I'm planning to air them anyway. Some things on aging that puzzles my mind....

Let's start with children. They always want to get older and can't wait to do all the things adults do. In playing games, they like to be grown-ups. Why? Because they don't know how boring our lives are. Seriously, that's why. And, even pre-teens wait till the day they can drive the car, hang out with friends, wear makeup, go to movies, have their own life etc.

Comes adulthood. 20's to 30's. Peak of our youth. We're too busy with setting up our lives. We have a hard time thinking about our new freedom to create debts (i.e buy a new house, car etc), explore the world, go up the corporate ladder, keep up with the joneses etc. Do we care about getting old at this point? Probably not.

Then comes the mid 30's until 40's. Even then, we don't like to admit it, but our bodies are reminding it to us every day. The little pangs start creeping in. Old ? Who me? No way. We try laughing it off. Believe me, it doesn't work - i've even tried hard to forget my birthday. Darn, no use. So, tell me, why do some people go to any extent to be young again? Of course, not you or me....it's that wretched 'XYZ' that i'm talking about. We are matured. We strongly believe in maturing and aging gracefully.....except for occasionally dyeing our hair and wearing ridiculously hip clothes. Which let's solemnly swear, doesn't count.

Back to my question - Whoo, finally, i'm getting to the point - Why do we start with wanting to grow old and when we get there, do the opposite and wish to get young again?

Let's take some time to think. What...why are you looking at me? I'm only good at asking these kind of questions. Look for answers elsewhere. And, by the way, write to me when you find them. Will ya?
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