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Balancing those beams....




We do this every day, right? Tread those egg shells? Walk that thin line between what we think is right, and what's a big no-no.

Or, do something which seem perfect at Life Point X, but, when we overdo and it becomes negative, turns into an inverted bell curve at Life Point Y?

 Read on.

 Here are some random examples on this train of thought, collected on this random day-

  • Share our life experiences and think it's of major help to someone, without sounding preachy, a bore, and being a major put off.
  • Gain self-confidence and turn it into positive self-esteem, without getting snotty, arrogant, and again, a major put off.
  • Be that voice of reason to friends and family, without people start hating it eventually.
  • Love our kids deeply and passionately, without smothering and killing the relationship that they run away and away from us. This of course, sometimes can make us chase them more, until they flee to the tall peaks of Machu Pichu. But, sorry children - love can soar and climb mountains too, so watch out ok?
  • Set the bar high for our kids in life, without making it them trying to fulfil our fantasy and unfulfilled ambitions. The answer to this would be to help them fix their own goals in whatever they want to do and help them be successful in that venture. Sounds simple and easy enough? Nah.
  • Be sensitive to people who are going through a tough time, without being silent and feeling helpless, in the end turn indifferent
  •  Go out of our way and help others in need, yet, be fine if that's not reciprocated or expect anyone to hand out medals for the act. Altruism is the hardest virtue. Very hard.
  • Give time for others around us, yet, make sure we don't suffer burn outs and our sanity is not compromised. Am sure a lot of Mothers can relate to this one. No one cares if we quit our jobs for the family or juggle both. Whatever we did was our decision and this is one tough bullet we have to bite, chew and swallow.
  • Be nice to the world without being taken for a ride or treated like a doormat.
  • Plan for the future, yet, be in the moment sometimes and carpe those diems if you can.
  • Be organized most of the times, yet, relax the rules and just go for it!
  • Work really hard, smart, wise, whatever, yet, take those well-deserved breaks and don't ignore the family around us for whom we're working hard in the first place.
  • Be health conscious for the most part, yet indulge a bit now and then. Those ice creams and killer desserts are good for our soul, forget the body.
By now, am sure you get the drift and can add more to the list.

 Scary, much?

 So, is there a perfect recipe or the ideal mix of how much of what we do is correct, and when it's not?
Not sure if that's possible. But, if we reflect on our day-to-day actions, there's a big chance to catch ourselves and work on these over-do's.

 Try giving it a shot :-)
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